Everyone keeps talking about the moment of calm. We are all looking to find that moment of calm amidst the worldly chaos. All of us are not only running a race against time, we are also running a race against our own thoughts, wants and desires. The social media has taken over our lives like the dementors from Hogwarts. Our spells of happiness, positivity and determination somehow fail to bring bang the calmness to life.
We often here advices about pausing and taking a moment to reflect. We are given truckloads of ideas to relax and indulge in some me time. However, seldom I wonder how does one find this moment of calm. Can you buy it off a store or is it like a hidden treasure waiting to be discovered?
Oh, how I wish finding this moment of calm was like a children’s story book. I would have been thrilled to have the good prevail over all the bad in the end. Conversely, it is not so easy to find that moment of calm in our everyday hustle. However, since the well-being of our mental and emotional health is imperative, it is significant to begin the quest of “the moment of calm”.
Through the years, I have had a brief battle with post-partum, lost a loved one, had a few scarred relationships and unsuccessful attempts at re-building my career. Juggled motherhood, freelancing and entrepreneurship. Eventually, I did find my moment of calm! Here is what I practiced.
Through regular practice, I have realized that meditation, helps calm my super paranoid nerves. Through meditation, it helps me tap on the thoughts that flow rapidly through my brain all the time. It helps me segregate the relevant thoughts from the irrelevant ones! Practice this for 10 to 15 mins every day. You can even include simple breathing exercises too.
Find a hobby.
I am a stay at home and work from home mom. Managing the home chores and following your passion is always not a cake walk. In between all the juggling we have to do as homemakers, it helps to find a hobby and pursue it. I love to draw and doodle. So, on days when I have to lift my mood, I begin doodling. I draw a lot of inspiration from Pinterest too. Find a hobby that helps you uplift your mood. It could be anything from drawing, dancing, singing, writing, stitching, anything!!
Follow your passion.
Seldom, in life, our responsibilities take over our passion. We begin considering our every day 9 to 5 job as our passion. Then there are days, when you realize your passion and your work is totally different. Try your best to convert your passion into your work and even if you can’t then ensure you take out time to follow your passion. My passion is writing and I have been happily giving it everything I can for the last 3 years.
Jot down your to-do list.
It always helps to write down your daily tasks and allot time to the tasks too. This way, you know when and how much time you will have for yourself. We often want to be over productive, fit everything in a day’s schedule. We do not realize, adding more than you can take your plate feels like stuffing in that extra last morsel of food.
OK, when I say read something, do not go onto social media and read people’s posts. Social media sometimes can do more harm to your mental health than doing well. When, I say read, you could read a blog or a book. Reading books can help you reduce your stress levels and improve your self esteem too. There are multiple benefits attached to reading books on a daily basis.
Do not constantly seek an approval
As human beings, we are constantly looking for an approval. We are constantly seeking approval and appreciation for things we do. While, we are doing this, we are lowering our self-esteem and adding to our stress. If you believe in yourself and the work you have done, you do not need to seek everyone’s approval always! Focus on your hard work, take advices for sure however don’t constantly seek consent.
Spend Time With People You Love.
Spending time with your loved ones. This could include simply being around them and not doing anything. I strongly believe spending time with your family and friends help to activate the happy hormones in our body and reduces your anxiety. The time you spend with your pets can be a great stress buster too!
Not everything is within your control.
We often want to correct or take charge of everything. It is natural for us to want to positively influence everything. We however, need to understand that not everything is withing our control. For example, this situation of the Pandemic is beyond our control. The things we can control or change are seldom limited.
Sometimes doing nothing can be as rewarding as doing a million things. We are so used to doing something or the other all the time. Seldom, I find peace by doing nothing. Simply sitting by the window and sipping my favorite cuppa is what brings me closer to my moment of calm.
There is so much we are worried about right now. These times that we are living in are probably the very first for many of us. Finding solace and ensuring that our emotional health is stable, is important. It is not always easy to find your moment of calm among such varied moments of trial. You definitely try these things mentioned above to bring some calmness and happiness in your lives.