{"id":2922,"date":"2020-03-09T07:31:20","date_gmt":"2020-03-09T07:31:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/decodinglives.com\/?p=2922"},"modified":"2020-03-09T07:31:20","modified_gmt":"2020-03-09T07:31:20","slug":"here-is-why-i-dont-celebrate-womens-day","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/decodinglives.com\/index.php\/2020\/03\/09\/here-is-why-i-dont-celebrate-womens-day\/","title":{"rendered":"Here is why I don’t celebrate women’s day!"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

While I practically spent my entire day deleting the\nnumerous images that had \u201chappy women\u2019s day\u201d etched on them, I also spent part\nof my day reading the motivational, inspiring posts on Instagram. The best part\nof these messages doing rounds on social media was that, a lot of men took time\nout to talk about situations that involved empowering woman. Now, I have always\nwondered what empowerment really meant. As per dictionary the first meaning for\nempowerment is, authority or power given to someone to do\nsomething. <\/strong> Do we really need to\nbe given the authority to do something? Women are often and repeatedly trolled\nfor having a mind of their own and doing things as per their wish, so I guess\nit\u2019s about time we lived up to what we are actually trolled for, haina?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The other meaning of the word empowerment means, the process of becoming stronger and more\nconfident, especially in controlling one’s life and claiming one’s rights. <\/strong>This\nagain talks about your own journey and your own struggle, it doesn\u2019t talk about\nthe need for someone else to intervene in your path.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I am someone who doesn\u2019t lay much importance on celebrating\nthese days because I feel the things we do on these days need to be done every\nday. We definitely don\u2019t need the pomp and show, but the appreciation, love,\nrespect and care should be an everyday phenomenon.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While browsing through the chain of these wonderful thoughts, I also stopped and pondered over few things that should be spoken about more often.I am indeed glad about the leverage I have in my life I right now.Thankful of having the comfort of writing this down while being in an air conditioned environment, wincing at the thought that, there is a whole lot out there who can barely manage one meal a day!! We are fortunate and blessed in more ways than one and there are so many people out there who acknowledge this fact and aim to spread the magical dust to others.Ironically, some of us are also programmed to keep going without paying much heed to our physical and mental health that when we are sometime hit by a big boulder called self-realization, we are immediately surrounded by self-doubt.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t realize when this self-doubt turns to misery and\nimpacts the very core of our being. It is like the dark cloud covering your\nbright sunlight and is not even ready to budge an inch. As a women we are given\na lot of labels every time we try to be something.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Women are referred to be too bold or talkative when they are\nonly trying to be fearless!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They are ridiculed to be wasting their time when they try\nand be creative.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They are referred to being lazy and pompous in case they\nhave a nanny for their kids.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They are considered low society or uneducated if their\ndressing is too desi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Their parent\u2019s get blamed immediately for not raising their\ndaughter\u2019s right, in case they decide to speak about the wrong.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They are brandished for too much skin show and sometimes\neven called characterless when they decide to flaunt that body that took her years\nto build. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

And often hell breaks loose when a mother doesn\u2019t know to\nwhip up multiple delicacies or if she chooses her work meeting over a school\nmeeting.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Uff! Society and society walo, didn\u2019t your parent\u2019s teach\nyou that it\u2019s bad manners to poke your nose in other person\u2019s business or did\nyou very conveniently forget that.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This women\u2019s day, I have an avalanche of thoughts that I\nwant to speak my mind about but again I don\u2019t want my burkha clad, educated\nmother getting dragged into this. So, let us quickly detour around a few things\nthat need to be practiced day in and day out. <\/p>\n\n\n\n