{"id":2846,"date":"2020-02-03T09:27:10","date_gmt":"2020-02-03T09:27:10","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/decodinglives.com\/?p=2846"},"modified":"2020-02-03T09:27:10","modified_gmt":"2020-02-03T09:27:10","slug":"the-best-way-to-be-happy-is-to-not-have-any-expectations","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/decodinglives.com\/index.php\/2020\/02\/03\/the-best-way-to-be-happy-is-to-not-have-any-expectations\/","title":{"rendered":"The best way to be happy is to not have, any expectations!!"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>I recently had an activity to conduct with my class where\nthey were to emote certain feelings. They were to pick from different coloured\nchits and say aloud a certain set of sentences. It was a fun activity where\neveryone laughed and enjoyed themselves. This got me thinking as to how we\nconsider emotions and feelings as one thing. There is a difference between the\ntwo. Emotions are strong feelings derived from a person\u2019s circumstances, mood,\nrelationships with others etc. Feelings are however just an emotional state or\nreaction. They seem to be very interlinked just like fried and ketchup or rajma\nand rice, can\u2019t ignore either one!!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I usually draw references from food because I can easily\ntell you the kind of feelings; I derive out of<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>different food items. For example, ice-cream is\nsynonymous with celebration, dal \u2013rice is synonymous with comfort, alcohol with\ncelebration and depression, dark chocolates are mood lifters and so on.\nSimilarly, people associate feelings with relationship labels. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>A spouse is expected to be happy, chirpy, a shoulder to\nlean on and a lot many other things. All hell seems to break loose in case a\nspouse is none of the above on certain days, they are judged as being\ninsensitive.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>A parent is expected to drown themselves in the thoughts\nof well being of their children. A parent is expected to run all errands,\nmanage the house and themselves at all times. If a parent fails at doing any of\nthe above, then walks in the unsolicited comments and advices from the\nso-called society.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If a sibling, a child or a friend for unexplainable\nreasons is unable to fulfil the expected requirements of a relationship\nportfolio, then they are again labelled as insensitive or selfish.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We all have been hurt, angry, sad, happy, excited in\nlife. We have learnt our lessons too. Have you ever wondered if these are\nemotions or feelings? To me these are emotions that are a response to a situation.\nI suggest let\u2019s not label these feelings with a person, let us label them as\nfeelings to the occurrence of a situation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Whenever you feel an emotion or experience a feeling that\nyou do not resonate yourself with, ask yourself a few questions <\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul><li>What makes me feel the way I am feeling?<\/li><li>Why am I not happy or content with what I have?<\/li><li>What is my end goal or what do I look for in\nthis situation?<\/li><li>How can I get better from where am I today?<\/li><li>Is there anything I could do to change this\nfeeling or situation?<\/li><li>What should I stop doing right now?<\/li><li>Is there anything I could do to help myself or\nsomeone else?<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>Once you have answers to even a few of these questions,\nthe feelings that clog your happy space will easily make way for sunshine!!\nThis list of questions will keep changing because, you and I will keep changing\nand evolving. There will be situations, relationships, people who will leave\ndifferent impressions on the canvas of your life, sometimes it will be a choice\nyou will have to make to pick a new set of colours and paint a new picture on\nthe canvas of life.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I recently had an activity to conduct with my class where they were to emote certain feelings. They were to pick from different coloured chits and say aloud a certain set of sentences. It was a fun activity where everyone laughed and enjoyed themselves. 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