{"id":2642,"date":"2019-12-29T06:30:00","date_gmt":"2019-12-29T06:30:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/decodinglives.com\/?p=2642"},"modified":"2019-12-29T06:30:00","modified_gmt":"2019-12-29T06:30:00","slug":"its-a-mad-race-please-dont-judge","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/decodinglives.com\/index.php\/2019\/12\/29\/its-a-mad-race-please-dont-judge\/","title":{"rendered":"It’s a mad race, please don’t judge!"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

I took immense pride in being able to function like hands of a clock. From serving fresh meals at all times of the day, to freshly ironed clothes to laundry being washed every day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I ensured all my utensils were also washed and arranged, while the food was being cooked. I put the clothes to dry, and whatever time I was left with before I fell asleep, I did an additional chore or two.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I gave my child time, took on the onus to help him with his studies, played with him, etc, etc. I loved my spouse immensely and he reciprocated with even more love and respect.  I tried to be the perfect homemaker, I even picked a career that would suit the homemaker’s needs, yet I wasn’t happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yes, Yes! You read it right. I wasn’t happy. What, why?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Despite socializing on social media channels, being a reader, writer, a person with creative thoughts, I still wasn’t happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let me tell you why, because, I wasn’t being myself. I worried about being judged every time I slept a little longer on certain days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I worried about being judged when I sat there spending more time on my phone than normal, and someone else doing the chore I did earlier.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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I worried about being judged when someone else spent the time that I was supposed to spend with my child.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I worried about being judged for overdressing or overeating.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I worried about being judged for putting my career over home on certain occasions and declined a few opportunities.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I also worried about not being as successful as people I see on social media, and crossing the age limit that is usually set for achieving these things.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I worried not being able to contribute financially in the same manner as others did. I worried so much that eventually, I had to worry about being depressed and taking treatment for it!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yes, perfection is literally just a term. Do not let it engulf you. It’s ok to have flaws as long as you don’t let them hamper your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It’s your life, you be the judge, you decide what’s best for you and your family.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You decide and DO WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY AND GIVES YOU PEACE!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Laugh, cry, dance, watch a movie, meet friends, exercise, sleep, read a book, write, swim, exercise, play, be silly, take a holiday, do whatever lets you break free from a monotony!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For all, who judge, Don’t! You never know the kind of damage you are doing to a persons character\/life. Live and let live folks.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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