As parents we always want to swoop in as soon as we see our\nkids in trouble but the question is when and how do we make them independent\nenough to handle it themselves. It is always easy for parents to intervene and\nstop the big emotions from bubbling up and settle a fight between kids. I\nrecently encountered a situation where I had to step up for my child to stop\nthe other parent from speaking to my child in a condescending tone!<\/p>\n\n\n\n
There are times when you aren’t aware and there are strangers\nor other kid’s parents trying to discipline your child, which is mostly not\nacceptable by you! No parent want’s a little insight by an outsider on their\nkid’s behavior. Sometimes simply talking to the parent may also lead the\nsituation to another valley altogether.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
As tempting as handling the entire situation by yourself\nsounds, you need to let the kids handle it out themselves because that is how\nkids learn to handle their emotional and social skills and it helps them\nprepare for bigger things to come.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I often tend to get sleepy or get distracted easily when I am in a situation where I only have to listen but I am all gung ho when I have to demonstrate a skill and participate in an activity. As kids the attention span is even shorter and hence lecturing kids about ameliorating their behavior will not always help. Here are a few things I have learnt through my experience of interacting with parents and conferring topics related to their kids and mine. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Decide <\/strong>– Instead of letting your emotional rockets take a flight instantly, you need to decide how important the interaction with other parents is. If it\u2019s someone at school or someone you would meet on an everyday basis, then the communication is important for sure.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Try and stay positive\n<\/strong>– In situations where children are involved, expecting parents to think\nabout sunshine when it\u2019s already thundering can be a little too much to ask\nfor. You need to keep a positive tone and intent when you are approaching\nanother parent or child.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The Tone Matters<\/strong> –\nHow you approach people and what you say also matters to a great extent. You cannot\nbe adding fuel to fire, you will have to use a softened approach if you have to\ndiscuss problems pertaining to someone else\u2019s kids.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Two sides to a coin<\/strong>\n– There are two sides to a story and two sides to a coin hence you will have to\nacknowledge both perspectives. Involve the other parent in the solution rather\nthan discussing the problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Be appreciative and\nrepair the damage<\/strong> – If you accidentally say something negative about the\nparent or the other child, apologize. If the other child displays a positive\ntrait, appreciate. Try and create a situation that\u2019s a win-win for both of you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Express your view\npoints and boundaries<\/strong> – We all eventually want our child to be safe and at the\nsame time we do not want to blow the situation out of proportion. It becomes\nextremely vital to express your viewpoints calmly and let the other parents\nknow about your style of parenting. They also need to be aware of what works\nfor you. You need to try and avoid evaluation the other child.<\/p>\n\n\n\n At the end of the day, we do not want to engage in conflicts\nourselves and we all also want our kids to learn to fight their own battle. You\nalso need to ensure that the kids have communicated their likes and dislikes to\neach other. Make patching up with friends a fun activity, reward your kids on\ntheir honesty and empathy.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" It sometimes becomes vital for you to handle your kids playground situations but how much involvement is really needed and how should you handle it.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":2507,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"spay_email":""},"categories":[13],"tags":[15],"yst_prominent_words":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","blog_post_layout_featured_media_urls":{"thumbnail":"","full":""},"categories_names":{"13":{"name":"Parenting","link":"https:\/\/decodinglives.com\/index.php\/category\/parenting\/"}},"tags_names":{"15":{"name":"parenting","link":"https:\/\/decodinglives.com\/index.php\/tag\/parenting\/"}},"comments_number":"0","wpmagazine_modules_lite_featured_media_urls":{"thumbnail":"","cvmm-medium":"","cvmm-medium-plus":"","cvmm-portrait":"","cvmm-medium-square":"","cvmm-large":"","cvmm-small":"","full":""},"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"jetpack-related-posts":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/decodinglives.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2506"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/decodinglives.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/decodinglives.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/decodinglives.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/decodinglives.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2506"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/decodinglives.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2506\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/decodinglives.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/2507"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/decodinglives.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2506"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/decodinglives.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2506"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/decodinglives.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2506"},{"taxonomy":"yst_prominent_words","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/decodinglives.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/yst_prominent_words?post=2506"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}