How often have you looked at your life with humor? I am not asking you to think that life is a joke. I am just asking you to look at your life with rose tinted glasses and think about the time when you dropped that old beautiful glass bowl that your mother had preserved for ages and you have had to hear about it for over a week. No matter what you did, you were reminded of it before and after any task you did. You, however still sailed through it and bid adieu to all the drama that came with the incident.
Remember the times when you had a heart –break and you felt like your world came crashing down like the twin-towers. Did you ever for a moment feel that it was good riddance to bad worse or did you ever for a micro –second felt that you would finally be able to love someone truly and wholly and that person would be, you, and yourself!!
All those times at work when you were piled with work, did you ever tell yourself that you are being stuffed under big mountains of work not because they despise you but because you are way better than them and they are just guilty of not being as qualified as you.
Everything in life has a reason. The highs and lows, the successes and failures, the sweet memories and the bitter experiences. Everything has a reason!!
Optimism doesn’t come easy. There are times when I have looked around at people and wondered how to just manage to smile. It’s very easy for people to say, be positive, be optimistic, have you ever wondered how to do it yourself? I then thought about all the stand up comedy my Husband enjoys and I realized it is nothing but a bunch of ordinary people like you and me, laughing at each other’s goof ups.
The second thing that you need to do is to tell yourself that you need to walk this journey, walk this path alone. You will have to pick that leg and keep moving all by yourself. You will have a shoulder to lean on, you will have someone to confide in, but the journey is all yours.
Too many cooks always spoil the broth so letting too many people get on the wagon of your life and letting them steer it can be not so beneficial. Hence, you are the station master and you are the driver of your own life. So stop caring and bothering about what people will say or how they will react, Yes, worry about the ones who care, take their advice but no one knows better how you feel, so eventually you decide.
Indulge yourself in things that make you happy even if it means putting on some extra calories on your plate every once in a while. Form a habit that give you happiness, take time out only for yourself without feeling guilty. Guilt is like the step mother from the fairy tales, will always be on the lookout for you, so just shrug it off.
Take care of yourself like you would do for anyone else. Take care of yourself emotionally and physically. You have survived multiple odds and you got to pat yourself on the back and treat yourself to a little victory party anyways,
Each of us know of our own struggles better than anyone else and the tips mentioned above can only help you sail through the gloom that takes over your ship. Remember the ship will sail through easily when the dark weary clouds wear off, after all every dark cloud has a silver lining.